Narcissistic abuse support groups

Talk with people who have been through narcissistic abuse, whether from a partner, a narcissistic mother or father, or someone else close, and understand the confusion, self-doubt and long road to feeling like yourself again.

✓ Small, live video groups
✓ Hosted by peers with lived experience, or guided by Heal Kinder
✓ Join online, from wherever you feel comfortable
✓ Small groups where people get to know each other

Upcoming narcissistic abuse groups

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Narcissistic abuseThursdays · 9:00am

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

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Children of Narcissistic Mothers

The damage done to a child from a narcissistic parent is tremendous, the foundations of a human being have been destroyed by the Narcissistic parent in those fundamental years. A mother wound, a father wound or both were created within you and now you have to unpack all your baggage and sort through it and throw away what no longer serves you, the coping mechanisms that kept you safe as a child now keep you prisoner as an adult. Learning to undo and build up what you were never taught is a tough job and sometimes it doesn't feel fair that the healing is all up to you when none of it was your fault. "I'm 36 now and a lot of people think that by 36 you should stop blaming all your problems on your parents, well riddle me this, if you were in a building with a messed up foundation, would you feel safer on the 36th floor?" - GianMarco Soresi A little humor that hits home and might bring a smile to your face.

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Common signs of narcissistic abuse

For information only, not for diagnosing. These are common experiences, not a diagnosis of you or of anyone else. Only a qualified mental health professional can diagnose a personality disorder such as NPD, and only by assessing that person themselves. If this sounds familiar, a counsellor or an abuse support service can help you make sense of what you've been through.

What people who've been through it often describe, in a relationship, family or workplace:

Feeling like you're always walking on eggshells around them
Doubting your own memory or judgement after being told things didn't happen the way you remember (gaslighting)
Lots of attention and praise at first, then criticism and put-downs
Feeling that everything is your fault, and apologising all the time
Being cut off from friends and family, bit by bit
The silent treatment, or affection taken away as a punishment
Your needs and feelings being dismissed, while theirs always come first
Your money, phone or time being watched or controlled
Feeling anxious, numb, or not like yourself any more
Being drawn back in by promises that things will change

If you don't feel safe, free, confidential help is there any time: in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233; in the UK, the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. If you're in danger, call 911 (US) or 999 (UK).

Frequently asked questions

Is the online narcissistic abuse support group free?

Yes. Every group on Heal Kinder is free. Sign up, pick a time that suits you and save a spot. Groups are small live video calls, so there's room for everyone to be heard.

What happens in a narcissistic abuse support group?

The host, or in a guided peer group the Heal Kinder guide, welcomes everyone and goes over a few ground rules: what's shared stays in the group, and passing is always okay. Then people take turns talking about how things have been, and others listen and share what has helped them. You don't have to speak, and many people just listen at their first group.

Can a narcissistic abuse support group replace therapy?

No. It's peer support from people with lived experience, not therapy, medical care or a crisis service. Many members join alongside therapy or treatment and find it helps to talk with people who understand. If you are in danger, call 911 (US) or 999 (UK). In the US you can call or text 988 any time; in the UK, call Samaritans on 116 123.

Between groups, small daily habits help too. How journaling and a daily mood check-in can help with narcissistic abuse

Heal Kinder is peer support: people who've been there, listening and sharing. Many members find it a real help alongside any care they already have, though it isn't therapy or a crisis service. If you are in danger, call 911 (US) or 999 (UK). In the US you can call or text 988 any time; in the UK, call Samaritans on 116 123.